You’re not alone. 1 in 3 domestic violence victims are men. Abuse isn't always physical, it can be emotional, financial, or controlling behavior. And in California, you have the legal right to get protection through a Domestic Violence Restraining Order (DVRO).

Why File a DVRO?

A DVRO is a court order that protects you from an abusive partner. It can:

  • Force them to leave your home, even if they say “this is my house too”
  • Prevent all contact: texts, calls, emails
  • Protect your time with your kids if they’ve tried to cut you off
  • Stop stalking and tracking (GPS, AirTags, phone surveillance)
  • Create legal consequences if they violate the order

You don’t need to be hit to qualify. California recognizes coercive control as abuse: things like intimidation, isolation, financial control, and harassment.

Common Signs You May Need Protection

  1. Your ex refuses to leave the house

    Even if it’s shared property, you can ask the court for a move-out order.

  2. She isolates you from your kids

    Example: locks herself and your daughter in a room and won’t let you see her. A DVRO can restore access and set custody/visitation rules.

  3. You’re being stalked or tracked.

    Hidden GPS trackers, “Find My iPhone” spying, or showing up where you are — all are illegal and valid reasons to file.

  4. You’re being socially isolated.

    She doesn’t “allow” you to see friends or shames you if you do? That’s coercive control


Don’t Let Shame Keep You Silent

You may worry people won’t believe you, or that you’ll be judged. But filing a DVRO is a sign of strength, not weakness.

The law is on your side and your safety, mental health, and kids matter.

  • No court fees
  • No need for a lawyer (but you can get one)
  • Can be filed quickly, even the same day

Abuse is abuse. You have every right to live in peace.

If this sounds like your situation, you can file a DVRO today and take back control. Abuse can happen to men too. If your partner is controlling, isolating you from your kids, or tracking you, you have the right to protection. A DVRO in California can help you reclaim your safety, your home, and your peace of mind.